7 Reasons You Should Masturbate with Your Partner
Let’s talk about masturbation!
Masturbation is a taboo topic for most people, which is understandable given the amount of misinformation we’re told growing up. But masturbation is both healthy and normal - even in a relationship.
While many people believe masturbation is only a solo activity, masturbating with your partner can be a fun and intimate way to explore your sex life.
Mutual masturbation means one of two things: masturbating yourself at the same time as your partner masturbates themselves, or getting each other off with your hands.
Masturbating while in a relationship does not mean that your partner cannot satisfy you (or vice versa), but rather that you have a healthy sex drive and enjoy pleasuring yourself. If you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom in a way that doesn’t take a feat of strength or acrobatics from either of you, mutual masturbating may be exactly what you need.
Why masturbate together?
1. The physical benefits
Most importantly- it feels good! There are no negative physical or mental consequences from masturbating, and it’s a great way to relax, lower your cortisol levels, reduce blood pressure, and increase endorphin production. As a bonus, it’ll help both of you sleep better!
2. Guaranteed (and possibly simultaneous) orgasms
When you masturbate, an orgasm is pretty much guaranteed. For women who have trouble orgasming during penetrative sex with a partner, masturbating together can be a less stressful way to achieve orgasm. You both know exactly what you like (and how you like it), so satisfaction’s a guaranteed thing.
Mutual masturbation is also a great way to try for simultaneous orgasms. When you both control your pleasure, you can speed up or slow down exactly as much as you need.
3. Show them what you like
Masturbating with a partner is a great way to show them how you like to be touched and what gets you off. They get to watch and learn from the expert- you.
Many people find it easier to show, rather than tell, what gets them off. Allowing your partner to watch as you touch yourself is a masterclass in the best way to pleasure you- and vice versa.
Once that conversation is started, you both may find it easier to have open sexual communication, detailing what you like, don’t like, and would be open to trying.
4. Increases libido
Sexual desire fluctuates during a relationship, and that’s completely normal. If you find yourself less interested in sex, mutual masturbation may be just the thing to help you reconnect emotionally with your partner and give your sex drive a boost because masturbation actually increases libido levels
If you’re horny but too tired to have full on sex, masturbating together can be a hot way for you both to achieve pleasure – guaranteed.
Bonus- you may realize once you’re done that you have another round in you, and that’s where penetration comes in!
5. Incredible intimacy
Masturbating with a partner is an act of incredible intimacy and trust. There’s a level of sexual vulnerability in mutual masturbation not found in other sexual acts. You get to watch and listen to something most people do completely alone. It may evoke feelings of excitement, fear, vulnerability and power.
If you enjoy watching, you’ll love watching your partner get themselves off before your eyes. Watching someone touch themselves can be incredibly hot and stimulating. Alternatively, if you like to take charge, you get to get your partner off in an intimate and unexpected way.
6. Try something new
Long term couples can find themselves in a sexual rut. Trying something new is an good way to break out of that rut, and masturbating together is an easy sell. It’s low-key, doesn’t need new toys or equipment, and is easy to do. If you don’t want to just lay there next to each other, you can get each other off, or take turns.
Humans are visual creations, and we tend to get aroused by seeing and hearing other people have sex (like porn). With mutual masturbation, you get to watch and listen as your partner gets themselves off. This can make it even hotter for you as you masturbate, knowing it’s a private show just for you.
7. Opens the conversation to exploration
Fantasizing about indulging a voyeuristic or exhibitionist kink? Masturbating together may be the answer.
If you’re experimenting with either of those kinks for the first time, you get to do so in a completely safe and supportive environment- and you get to cum. Once you’ve tried something new, you may find it easier to continue talking about way you’d like to spice things up in the bedroom. What you like or don’t like is personal, but trying something you’re both comfortable with (masturbating) in a new way (together) is a great way to get started.
Mutual masturbation is a great way to introduce toys into your lovemaking for the first time and show your partner how they can use it on you. Butt plugs, vibrators, dildos, clit and nipple vibrators all work well here.
And as a bonus, it's the safest sex
Masturbation is the safest form of sex you can practice, as there’s no risk of pregnancy. Your risk of STIs is very low, but there exits a risk anytime bodily fluids are exchanged. If you’re masturbating each other, use protection and wash your hands.
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