Priming the engine: Enhancing sex through flirting
Priming the engine: Enhancing sex with flirting, sexting, and fantasizing together
Unless you’re practicing tantric sex or a similar practice, the end goal of sex is arguably the orgasm. After all, if you don’t have one you can be left quite unsatisfied, which neither you or your partner would want. However, there are other important aspects of intimacy, such as foreplay and priming your proverbial engines. Not only do these activities allow you to bond with your partner, but in the end they can lead to better orgasms, too. To that end, we’re taking a quick dive into how flirting, sexting, and mutual fantasizing can enhance your love life.
The benefits of flirting
Let’s face it, flirting is just plain fun. It can also be useful in gauging whether or not your crush is as into you as you are them. But flirting can also bring benefits into an existing partnership, whether it’s in the form of coy glances, brief touches, or leaving little notes for your sweetie to find. So if you haven’t been doing so already, make flirtation a regular activity in your relationship. You may be surprised by how this spices things up in the bedroom, thanks to a few steamy looks, winks, and a game of footsie or two.
Expand your imaginations together
Most people would admit that they have sexual fantasies that they think about when they’re having a solo intimacy session. However, no matter what those fantasy scenarios may be, sharing them with your partner might amp up your sex life. For one, talking about them together can be a great way to prime your engines. And depending on what your fantasy is, maybe your partner is willing to help make it a reality. Wouldn’t that be the icing on the cake?
Why you should say what you want out loud (or via text)
Some of us may find it difficult or embarrassing to tell our partner what we like in the bedroom, preferring instead to keep them guessing about what really gets us off. However, pointedly telling your sweetie what you want can be a great way to actually get it. And if you’re feeling shy, sexting might be the perfect medium to implement this practice. That way the next time you’re getting it on, you don’t have to worry if your partner can figure out what works – they’ll know – and that can translate into better orgasms.
A picture is worth a thousand words
While you’re sexting, and if you fully trust your partner, you can titillate them with some revealing pictures as well. That could be an artistic shot of your collarbone, an up-skirt shot taken in the restroom at work, or a full-on explicit snap of your goods. This is a great way to visually stimulate your partner when you’re apart, which is sure to make things steamy when you’re back together in person.
One more thing... sharing a sexy audio with your partner is another fantastic way to keep things hot.
