What Is 'Enough' When It Comes To Sex

How often should you be having sex?

For the majority of couple out there, sex is an important aspect of their relationship. While not everyone is monogamous, any romantic pairing can only thrive when both partners have their intimate needs met. 

Speaking of intimate needs, everyone has a different definition of what that means. For example, do you need to have a certain amount of orgasms in a week in order to feel content? Or are you less concerned about climaxing, and more desirous of the physical and emotional connection that sex provides? Perhaps you also get a real self-esteem boost when you bring your partner to the peak of pleasure. No matter what, the big question remains: how often should you be having sex? Is there a magic number to aspire to that guarantees satisfaction for both partners? Here’s what we dug up while investigating this very question.

How much sex do most couples have?

We won’t hold back the info: according to a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, the average couple gets in between the sheets about 54 times annually, which translates into approximately once per week. Of course, exactly when you’re getting down will vary based on the kind of relationship you have, but that’s the average amount once all factors have been taken into account.

There are factors that influence frequency

Speaking of factors, there are several of them that can determine how much sex you and your sweetie are having. Most notably, according to a study from the Kinsey Institute, age is one of the biggest predictors of sexual frequency. Folks under the age of 30 are getting it on a whopping 112 times every year, which is two or more times a week. Next, people in their 30s have sex approximately 86 times annually. Then, the 40-something circuit came in at about 69 times every year, no pun intended, and those ages 50 and over got down and dirty about 52 times annually. So clearly, a person's libido changes over their lifetime.

There’s no magic number

All of that data aside, there’s no requirement or set number of times you should be having sex within a given period. As long as you and your partner (or partners) are happily fulfilled and feel like your sex life is thriving, the frequency of nookie just isn’t something to obsess over. To that end, if you’re happy in the bedroom, keep doing what you’re doing, as that’s enough!

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