Think you’re ready for a threesome? Here’s what to consider

Is three a magic number for you?

While many Americans are happy in long-term, monogamous relationships, there are plenty of folks who are open to coloring a little bit outside of the lines. It could be that you’re young and just beginning to explore the world of dating as a college student, or perhaps you’re in a settled relationship but you’re ready to spice things up. Or maybe you’re post-divorce and ready to let your wild side run free. Whatever the reason you’re thinking of having a threesome, the good news is that you’re not alone! Plenty of people are thinking about it just like you are, be it for exploration, titillation, or just plain fulfilling a bucket-list fantasy. But before you dive into bed with two eager and enthusiastic partners, make sure you’re doing the important work of preparation. To that end, if you think you’re ready for a threesome, here’s what to consider.

Know what kind of threesome you want

When considering the threesome you want to have, it’s important to figure out both the genders and roles of the folks you’d like to join you. Are you a lady hoping to have two men interested in just you? Or are you the female partner in a heterosexual couple hoping to bring a man or a woman into your relationship? Perhaps you’re pansexual, and aren’t so invested on either the genders or genitals of your partners? All of these are questions you want to answer before you hit Tinder, invite that cute barista over for dinner, or make a proposition to the couple you’ve been flirting with. So be sure you make communication paramount, as well as respect and consent -- that way, you’re bound to have fun as long as you know what you want and follow through.

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Be a cautious unicorn

This one is for the ladies out there who are thinking about hooking up with that hot couple you met on OKCupid. While it’s super fun to be the sexy third wheel for another couple’s fantasy, make sure they’re not foisting too many expectations on you. Make sure that both partners are equally into the idea of having a threesome, and that they respect who you are as a person -- and not just as an object of their fantasies. These kinds of romps can be great, but they can take a left turn if the communication is in any way disrupted. Finally, have an honest conversation about jealousy with any potential prospects, and make sure they honor what you’re looking to get out of the encounter.

Get tested

The most important thing you can do before dashing off into bed with two sexy partners is to get tested for any and all STIs -- sexually transmitted infections. Once everyone has their documents, sit down and have an honest discussion about your statuses, then make sure you’re all comfortable proceeding. Discussion of birth control, if applicable, is also vital. Additionally, establish your safer sex protocols before you enter the bedroom so everyone knows what to do before you, well, do it. Nothing is sexier than informed consent, which will allow you to have the most fun possible during your intimate exploration. Enjoy!

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