Is My Sexual Fantasy Weird?

Does the firm clasp of a well-placed handcuff give you a thrill? What about having your senses suppressed with blindfolds and gags? Or have you indulged in narratophilia (that’s a dirty story kink, btw – you’re welcome). So far, so regular, right? Well, have you ever felt the sensual trickle of slime as it runs down your body? Or been aroused by sports mascots?

Some fantasies are more popular than others. But if you don’t regularly see your own personal turn-on in the usual ‘Top 10 Favorite Fantasies’ lists, it can make you feel a little left out. However, If what does it for you doesn’t do it for the people you know, you’re less alone than you think. Case in point: our data on most popular episodes.

Rule 34

But here’s the main reason to affirm that your fantasy is absolutely normal: the internet exists.

If you’re aware of the internet (and if you’re reading this, then you definitely are) you’re probably aware of Rule 34: that there is internet pornography about every conceivable subject. This is equal parts freeing and eye-opening. But, once you realize that you’re not alone, the internet opens up to become a haven for open-minded folks who want to help you feel your fantasy.

One quick search will bring forth hundreds – thousands, millions even – of sites where you’ll find that no matter how odd you think your fantasy is, there’s someone out there who has been there, done that, and created the website so others can enjoy it too. Think of all the different ways your fantasy can be fulfilled: audio erotica, video porn, written erotica, photos, drawing, fan fiction... it’s all out there – alongside other formats we haven’t even considered.

When we bring it back to basics, it’s important to remember that having fantasies is a normal part of human psychology. You don’t even have to act on them for them to be an exciting part of your day-to-day life. Fantasies can help you to explore and expand your own sexuality, they can be a fun little secret to share with your partner to spice up your sex life, and they can be a stress relief tool you come back to when you’ve had a bad day and need to relax. And if or when you decide to indulge in them in real life, as long as everyone involved is consensual, safe, heard and happy, then you do you.

So whether it’s bondage or balloons, dirty talk or double penetration, impact or ice play, you’re just a quick search away from finding someone who’s just like you. Go forth and enjoy!